Dating

Dining- Formal and Informal

Date
circa 1945

This packet provides information about etiquette for female Dickinsonians in all aspects of dining, from invitations and thank yous, who pays etc.,  to the physical act of eating itself. The graphic here demonstrates how women should act when ordering at a hotel:

 

Concerning Automobiles

Date
circa 1945

"Concerning Automobiles" lists the rules and regulations governing female students and transportation. No women who lives in a dorm on campus was permitted to keep a car in Carlisle unless speical permission was granted. This was to ensure their safety and prevent automobile accidents involving students. However, female students were allowed to ride in automobiles during the day without permission if the distance was short and the trip was for less than an hour.

Is Dating Too Traditional?

Date
March 4, 2005

Susannah Rowe calls for women to understand and appreciate the "traditional" male roles on the dating scene in her "Dating Too Traditional?" article in the March 2005 Dickinsonian. Rowe takes a look at how in all aspects of life, even in the natural world, men are supposed to take the lead in getting a relationship, or even dating. She calls for women to be more appreciative of the effort men put out to get their attention, and even asks women to consider taking charge of their dating life.

Engaging the World Leads to Engagement Rings

Date
November 10, 2005

Students traveling on Dickinson Study Abroad Programs run the risk of getting involved in serious relationships that sometimes end, like for Natalie Wilson on the Toulouse Program, with an engagement. Program directors note that dating natives helps increase students' understanding of the language and culture, but often times this separates the students from the rest of the student group. In most cases these are American Dickinsonian women dating native men, and usually these women never planned on meeting someone!

No Time for Dating

Date
November 12, 2004

"No Time for Dating" is a piece written for the September 2004 issue of the Dickinsonian discussing how Dickinson students have no time for dating. According to the writer, students do not have enough time for a serious relationship, between "classes, clubs, homework and jobs there are just not enough hours in a day." Since we are mostly confined to the classroom for the majority of the day, and then spend the rest of the time in the library, it is hard to sustain a relationship.

Dr. Drew Answers Dickinson Questions on Relationships

Date
February 22, 2002

Dr. Drew Pinsky, the "love doctor" came to Dickinson to answer relationship questions. He discusses issues like masturbation, pornography, birth control, prostitutes/strippers. In conclusion, Dr. Drew wanted his audience to know that "sex is a wonderful and beautiful thing in the right context and at the right time. But if sex is abused or done in the wrong way or at the wrong time, then it can lead to serious and painful problems."  He also addressed cheating- men cheat beacuse they can. But women do because they are looking for a remedy for their emotional needs.

"Hook-ups" More Popular Then Relationships

Date
February 22, 2002

A poll of Dickinson students shows that the majority of those who responded "hook-up"- which they have defined as "being "physically intimate with people who they are not dating." 43% of students were in a serious monogamous relationship. 26% of single students were not looking for a relationship. 57% of students were not invovled in any relationship. The student respondents felt that the reason for this "hook up" culture was due to Dickinson's social scene focusing on parties and drinking.

Out With the Old Rules, In With the New

Date
November 4, 1919

President J. H. Morgan writes to the Dean of Women, Josephine Meredith, regarding the revision of the Self-Government rules for the young women at Metzger Hall. The President strongly feels that the revision of these new rules should be mostly designed by the young women of the college, but with Dean Meredith's discretion on the direction of the rules.

"What a Serenade!"

Date
May 1963

Kim Larsen (Class of 66) returns indoors through a Metzger Hall window after being serenaded by a male student outside.

Late Late Late! Curfews for Women in the 1960s

Date
January 4, 1963

Tardiness required suitable excuses or punishments were inevitable! This is report to the House Council in Barbara Wishmeyer's (the Dean of Women) Scrapbook for Zelda Clutch on January 4th, 1963. She was 5 minutes late on this Friday night for curfew because she had an argument with her date.